Michael and I have been married for over twenty years now and we certainly love each other more now than we did twenty years ago. But we still want to have a relationship with each other that is growing and is exciting. Since our marriage means so much to us, we decided to attend a Marriage Conference at Weber State on Friday night. It was a great date night activity--Michael's planning, of course.
There were so many good points brought out in the conference that I don't want to forget and Michael and I really want to implement them into our marriage.
Here are a few of the really good points to remember--this is for both of us:
Prove your love for your spouse by spoiling them every day!!! Wow--what a concept.
Michael and I talked about this one on the the way home and sometimes it is hard to know how to do that. You have to talk about those things that your spouse does that makes you happy and makes you feel loved. Open up and be honest about it.
Remember the three "L's" and the "T"----Look, Laugh, Listen and Touch. Do these four things everyday with your spouse. Look at each other and notice your spouse: their eyes, the color of their hair, just anything that you see in them and compliment them. Laugh with your spouse several times a day--be silly. Relax and don't be so serious all the time. Listen to your spouse--really listen. Listen to what their heart is really telling you. Touch each other: either by a kiss, a pat on the shoulder or a big bear hug. Make that connection with each other through touch.
Men want to feel: Accomplished, that they are contributing, and that they can save the lady--be our knight in shining armor.
Women want to feel: Like they are seen or noticed, they are beautiful, and that they can make the world more beautiful.
There is so much to learn about relationships and how to improve upon them. I listened very carefully to all that was said and I really want to improve my relationship with Michael and our children. I really want to create a safe ground for Michael so that he feels like he can talk to me about anything and not feel threatened by me and my feelings. We have opened up our hearts and talked about some feelings that we have and we both agree that we want our marriage to be green and growing--not ripe and rotting. We feel closer and I love that feeling. I just wish that I could keep that feeling forever. I know that I need to change some things and focus more on Michael than on my own selfish needs. I married a wonderful man and I am a much better person today because of his great love and example for me.
I feel so blessed to be married to a man who is sensitive to me and my needs. Thank you Michael, I love you so much. May our days be filled with good things to contribute to our true happiness together. I love my life with you.
I promise to make you feel more loved and do my very best to spoil you every day.
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